Like the desert where the scorpion lives, a Scorpio’s love can burn you with its’ fiery intensity. Scorpio is the sex-machine. Scorpio the scorned lover. Scorpio the deranged bunny boiler, the femme fatale, the dark, handsome and dangerous stranger. Oh, Scorpio. Quite the reputation you have there. But is there any truth to this image? Knowing how to love a Scorpio is like having sunscreen in the desert. You wouldn’t want to get burned now, would you?
1. LOVE IS PASSION FOR A SCORPIO.
Scorpio lover wants nothing less than to be consumed in the fire of passion and desire. For Scorpio, love, and indeed all of life must be complete and full of meaning or it is simply not worth living. They also must feel that they can trust their lover completely before they surrender body, mind, and soul to their partner – for that is the depth to which Scorpio love extends. They are highly sensitive to betrayal and not quick to forgive once their sensitive feelings have been wounded.
2. DON’T EVEN TRY TO CONTROL THEM.
Scorpio wants the balance of power to be on their side. You are allowed to have an opinion, but since Scorpio is very nearly a genius, you don’t stand a chance of winning most arguments. Do not think at any time you will be able to convince a Scorpio you can take care of things better because this is the quickest way to lose any kind of relationship with a Scorpio. Do not try to dominate a Scorpio, as they like to know that they are in control of their own thoughts and feelings.
3. THEY LIKE MYSTERY.
Don’t make the mistake of deceiving a Scorpio, but keeping a little bit of mystery in your relationship will keep their rapt attention. Scorpio is inquisitive, so dropping hints while keeping a surprise under wraps will drive your Scorpio to happy madness.
Drawing a Scorpio’s attention towards you is simple: do not doll up provocatively! They love mysteries! So revealing too much about you, mentally and physically, will repel rather than attract them! You have to somehow express your interest in an extensive range of issues, indicating your curiosity in the secrets of the world.
Once you have cracked the jackpot and have begun dating the Charmer, always keep them on their toes! With Scorpio man, he’s like a child that gets bored really quick, so must always be kept guessing. Feed him bits of info about yourself. An enigma is what he enjoys most!
4. DON’T DIG TOO DEEP, THEY PREFER SOME PRIVACY.
This is another of Scorpio’s paradoxes and contradictions. They will want to know absolutely everything about you, including your deepest and darkest secrets – but will give away very little in return. The more you dig, the more Scorpio will retreat and hold onto their intimate depths. The solution is simple – stop digging.
Building trust between you will help to build your compatibility. Scorpio will learn to trust that you won’t pry information from him or her – and will eventually volunteer more and more information to you. Until such time, respect their privacy. Although in social situations a Scorpio in love may appear at ease and vivacious, privately they’d rather just be alone with you.
They prefer “one on one” quiet dates where the conversation can run freely and without interruption. Fireside dates, quiet dinners at home or in intimate restaurants, or a scenic drive are easy dates that will entice your Scorpio. Basically, they need less fluff as they are mostly just interested in YOU, not the surroundings. They can quickly see through the bullshit so if you claim to know about something, you better actually know about it.
5. THEY’RE FIERCELY LOYAL.
Scorpio falls in love with great intensity, once they have taken their time to get to know you. Though not really great romantics, they become deeply attached to their loved ones. You can be almost certain when in a relationship with a Scorpio that the love they feel is real and they will be loyal and faithful to the end.
Many other signs find this intense passion of Scorpio hard to resist. Besides, Scorpios are brutally honest. Don’t ask Scorpio man if that dress makes you look fat unless you want to hear the truth.
6. IN EXCHANGE, THEY DEMAND HONESTY AND LOYALTY.
Scorpio wants the kind of relationship that tests loyalty, love, and commitment but never fails. They are not going to make the relationships easy because of their passion and intensity but they will make it lasting and rewarding when they know the love is genuine.
Scorpio wants a friend first because this sets the foundation. They also appreciate the little things their partner does to show they care and are being attentive.
7. ON “TOP” OF THE WORLD.
Scorpio is extremely selective when choosing a mate, so they look for as close to perfect as they can get. Which means that they are looking to the BEST. You just can’t measure up to Scorpio’s high standard, but if they’ve chosen you, then you can bet that they think you’re almost perfect or likely the Best.
For a Scorpio in love, only the best is acceptable. So if Ms/Mr. Mystery has chosen you, you too are one-of-a-kind, baby! They will want to know where the wood’s from, how it was carved, and by whom. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, to say the least!
They are only trying to know if They are making a good investment or not, that’s it! They are their hard-earned dollar bills, and as such, they can’t throw them into a gutter! Following this logic, they must have put a private investigator after you in your initial dating days!
8. THE DOMINANT “GENIE”!
Possessiveness is just how a Scorpio shows that they have claimed you as theirs and they don’t want to share. Remember, Scorpio chose you, not the other way around. Obsessive is an adjective that has been used to describe Scorpio’s love. A Scorpio’s dominant nature means there is also a high probability of a jealous nature.
The Scorpio is a loyal lover and expects nothing but the same. If there is even a hint of impropriety, the Scorpio will become suspicious, and start asking questions. If the Scorpio’s suspicions are confirmed, they will not waste time making the cheater pay dearly. Scorpios are very perceptive and use this ability to determine the true feelings of their lovers.
Once the Scorpio feels a true connection with their lover, they also use their keen insight to help that person fully blossom. Scorpio women like to be in control but will go about it in a much more subtle manner than a Scorpio male. She may allow her partner to think he is dominant, but she usually gets what she wants in the end.
However when in love with a Scorpio woman you can expect great rewards, treat her well and she will devote your entire life to loving and supporting you, her home, and family.
9. DON’T EVER BETRAY THEM.
The biggest no-no, however, in Scorpio’s eyes is betrayal. Scorpio is not known for forgiveness. They can be vengeful and ruthless when someone is disloyal to them. Avoid crossing your Scorpio and you have nothing to fear. For good or bad, Scorpio always remembers – and if it gets the chance to pay you back, it will do so, even if it’s many years further down the line.
A Scorpio lover will reward your allegiance with undying loyalty. In turn, they may punish your betrayal by seeking revenge. But if you betray a Scorpio there is no going back. Once crossed the little trust they had is lost forever. Trust takes a lifetime to build, but seconds to destroy. There is no grey area for Scorpio when they reach the end of their rope it’s off with your head.
You can also feel the sting and expect payback from Scorpios. Scorpio can hold onto a grudge longer than anyone else in the astrological universe, and they can be nasty fighters.
Getting back a Scorpio ex is far from easy so it’s best not to hope for too much. But if you lie low and let them ruminate for a while, when they’re missing you sexually (sex is an incredibly powerful magnet for Scorpios) there’s a chance they might be prepared to give you another go. Scorpio THE LOVER YOU DON’T WANT TO CROSS.
10. EMOTIONS RUN HIGH.
Relationships with Scorpio are always complicated, just like the person, their relationships are a series of extremes, they can even be downright moody for no apparent reason. As a water sign, Scorpio is prone to emotional extremes. Whether high or low, the intensity of emotion can be overwhelming at times for Scorpio’s mate.
Do you know how people can have a party? Or have a heart attack? Or have a baby? That’s the way a Scorpio has an emotion. It is a full-blown indulgent affair into which Scorpios plunge themselves … for hours, days, maybe weeks. Not talking regular, pedestrian emotions that are superficial and can be glossed over by other signs in the Zodiac.
Scorpio can not just suck it up and move on. Scorpios elevate emotion to a full, conscious experience, feeling it mentally, physically, and psychically in a way that may be torturous.
11. THEY DON’T NEED YOU.
Don’t get upset, but Scorpio is just so independent, ambitious, fearless, and resourceful that they will be just fine without you. The more that curious Scorpio learns and experiences, the better. Just because they love you with all their heart and need you in their life doesn’t mean they need you there.
Don’t get it twisted. They will never beg someone to stay where they don’t want to be. A Scorpio woman may want you but… doesn’t need you. They won’t waste time arguing with someone they don’t care about or have feelings for. They will walk away and you are dead to them.
12. BEST SEX OF ANY SUN SIGN.
Scorpios have an endless sex drive. If you’re with them, they will be ready and willing whenever you are. A Scorpio will generally have an almost sixth sense about what you want and need in bed, quite possibly knowing even more about your carnal desires than you do.
Their sexual stamina is legendary, and it’s often said that once you’ve made love with a Scorpio, any other sign will always be second best. Sex, for Scorpio, is something to be taken seriously – a path to the ecstasy of spiritual oneness achieved through mutual surrender.
It’s also a vital release for the pent-up emotions which Scorpios find so hard to express, for which reason sex is something most of them need lots of in their life.